Answer extracted from the Cliterally Obsessed podcast — listen to the full episode below.
What should you look for when buying a butt plug or anal toy?
The most critical feature to prioritize is a flared base that is as wide as, or wider than, the widest part of the toy itself. This design prevents the toy from being lost internally and potentially requiring an emergency room visit.
Safety should always be your first consideration when selecting any internal toy. A flared base creates a physical barrier that prevents complete internal displacement—a genuine medical risk that can result in costly and embarrassing emergency interventions. This is not an optional detail; it is a non-negotiable requirement.
As Madeline Dorian explains in the episode, this design principle applies universally across all anal toys, from entry-level butt plugs to more advanced toys. The flared base works because the anal sphincter naturally cannot pull an object in that exceeds the width of the widest part of that object—basic anatomy makes this feature your best protection.
"I started working in the store in an official capacity and I just fell in love. I fell in love with the customers, the conversations, and then the whole entrepreneurship side as well."
Madeline Dorian — Sex educator and entrepreneur with over 13 years of experience in the intimate wellness industry. She holds academic roots in sexuality studies from Concordia University and has received hands-on training from leading brands in sexual health. She co-runs Wicked Wanda's, a community-focused pleasure shop and educational space, alongside her mother, blending retail expertise with a mission to normalize conversations about pleasure and wellness.
Beyond the flared base, material safety matters significantly. Water-based lubricants are your safest choice for anal play because they are compatible with all toy materials, unlike silicone-based options that can degrade silicone toys. Additionally, opt for toys made from body-safe materials like medical-grade silicone, borosilicate glass, or stainless steel—materials that are non-porous and easy to clean thoroughly.
The anatomical design of the toy itself matters too. Gradual tapering from the insertion point to the widest part helps with comfortable entry, and a narrower neck just before the flared base reduces internal pressure. Madeline's detailed guidance on product selection covers additional considerations like texture, firmness, and size progression, which can help you choose a toy suited to your comfort level.
Key takeaways
- A flared base wider than the toy's widest point is the essential safety feature that prevents internal displacement.
- Body-safe materials like medical-grade silicone, borosilicate glass, or stainless steel are non-porous and easy to clean.
- Water-based lubricants are the safest choice for anal play because they work with all toy materials.
- Gradual tapering and a narrower neck design make insertion more comfortable and reduce internal pressure.
See also
Why should you avoid silicone lubricant with silicone sex toys?
Silicone lubricant and silicone toys are incompatible because the liquid silicone breaks down the solid silicone material of the toy, essentially degrading its integrity and lifespan.
What are the different types of lubricants and how should they be used with sex toys?
There are four main lubricant types: water-based (safe for all toys, should be glycerin-free and pH balanced), silicone-based (long-lasting but incompatible with silicone toys), oil-based, and hybrid formulations combining water and silicone.
What are the most popular vibrators sold at Wicked Wanda's?
The top-selling vibrators at Wicked Wanda's are wand vibrators and air pulse toys, both praised for their power and versatility across different body types and preferences.